Comments on: S’mores Bars { + S’More Thoughts on the Difficulty of Loving Yourself }

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 01 Jun 2015 11:36:20 +0000

I think we all struggle with this and I can’t say there is anything easy we can do but surrounding yourself with loving, positive people that support you is so important. Also, finding things that give you joy can bring the brightest sunshine to your day 🙂 Just take it each day as it comes and thank you always for sharing these meaningful posts. Love ya and these bars! xo

By: Anna @ shenANNAgans

Anna @ shenANNAgans — Sat, 30 May 2015 05:15:14 +0000

In reply to wallflourgirl.

I’ve never had much success with meditation, I find my busy minds chatter takes over, perhaps if I added that in to the gratitude, yoga mix. Argh…. How long did it take you to except compliments without finding fault? I have learned to shut up when it happens, but I still think… Yeah right!
Thanks heaps for your kind offer, isn’t this blog community wonderful. I am so grateful to have connected with you. Hope your weekend is rocking. 🙂

By: Nancy @ gottagetbaked

Nancy @ gottagetbaked — Fri, 29 May 2015 22:20:46 +0000

Ala, your words are always so meaningful, honest and heart felt. There are so many things in this post that I want to comment on but I’ll start here: “I have drifted by in a state of constant loneliness, anxiety, and terror: loneliness despite the support of some of the best people in the world, anxiety that I would fail to meet their expectations, terror that I would wake up the next day and realize that everyone around me has seen the truth about my phantom insecurities, and left” <– I know exactly how you feel. You have written down so eloquently emotions that I struggle with all the time. I know I always tell you what an incredibly positive person you are and in a way, I'm sure you put on a mask for the world so as to hide what you're really feeling inside. I do the same thing. A lot of people tell me that I seem positive, confident and self-assured when I'm anything but. I constantly feel stupid, like a fraud and a total failure. I think we torture ourselves because of the high expectations we place on ourselves. But that's not to take away from the very real pain, sadness, anxiety, stress that we feel. Ok, now I'm just rambling! I want you to know that you will always have my support, my admiration and my friendship. We are all works in progress and know that we can work it out together. xoxo

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:25:12 +0000

In reply to Liz. You've been just a wonderful support, Liz, unconditionally. Thank you so much--I'll be keeping your words in mind and close to my heart xo

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:24:46 +0000

In reply to Alice @ Hip Foodie Mom. I remember you talking about running on your blog, and that's such an inspiration! I think I'm learning to find that in not only my hobbies and work, but through my friends and other people in my life as well. You're totally right, though. I do feel most alive when I'm doing that one thing I love, whether it's swimming or baking. This means a lot, and I'll be keeping your comment close as I continue searching. Thank you so much, as always, for your beautiful insight, Alice!

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:23:36 +0000

In reply to Joanne. You're wonderful, Joanne--that's totally true! <3

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:23:15 +0000

In reply to Linda | Brunch with Joy. Linda, that really means so much. I can't wait until we actually get to meet up and chat our ears off someday :) I'll be sure to bring these bars with me so you'll listen, okay? hehe.

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:22:02 +0000

In reply to Erin @ The Spiffy Cookie.

Erin, PLEASE do–there’s nothing that would make me happier than to have this message discussed more openly so we know that we’re not on our own. A bunch of my friends have already shared them with folks they know who are suffering from or interested in learning more about mental/emotional loneliness…so please, yes, share!

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:21:01 +0000

In reply to Kate @ Framed Cooks.

Kate, thank you SO much for your incredibly thoughtful comment. You’ve put a great thing into practice with the Three Things–I do do a similar thing with writing about one thing every night before I go to bed, but I think I’ll try yours as well so it can become more of a habit. I know I’ll have no trouble finding 3 🙂 that’s a wonderful gift you have, and you’re such a bright ray of sunlight for others. Thank you for sharing this!

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 29 May 2015 07:19:41 +0000

In reply to Erin @ Miss Scrambled Egg.

ERIN–thank you so much for sharing this; I can only imagine how much you’ve been through. I’m putting that Brown book on my list (for real) and am really looking forward to reading it during that this summer. As for some of your situations–I’m so sorry to hear about the terrible ordeals (manipulation is the WORST–having betrayed trust is just such a crappy feeling. It makes you feel like you’re the smallest person in the world). Good on you for recognizing your doubts but also the limits of what we can do on our own–that really resonated with me. I do hope everything is getting better these days, and know that I mean it when I say I would love to talk! <3 thanks so much for your thoughts, girl xo