Comments on: Mexican Wedding Cookies { + writing about difficult issues }

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Tue, 29 Sep 2015 15:40:10 +0000

In reply to Kelly.

I love this advice–it made me smile when I read it first thing in the morning. Thanks, Kelly! Yoga has been something I’ve been looking into more and more, since meditation has been such a huge help as of late. I might just start it up again 🙂

By: Kelly

Kelly — Tue, 29 Sep 2015 13:12:15 +0000

Aaw, I’m sorry to hear about your struggles and hopefully writing it down helps a little bit. I think we all feel like this every now and then – at least I know I do. Yoga or running helps me on some of my down days and I’ve recently starting stetting aside more me time which can be tough for all of us these days. You are such a beautiful person and hope you are able to find something that can help make you feel better on those days *hugs*

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Sat, 26 Sep 2015 21:07:41 +0000

In reply to Andrea.

Ohhh Andrea–I read your comment and wanted to do it justice by giving myself ample time to reflect on it. THANK YOU for that inspiring note! All of your writing makes me think so hard about so many different things and perspectives. It’s amazing what you’ve achieved over the pats few years, and I’m glad to hear that you’re coming out from a dark period in your life. You ARE worthy of being loved, and I admire that self-awareness completely. “Our flaws are what make us beautiful”–yes yes yes! I am working hard to internalize that–my best friends always tell me that it’s important to stop apologizing for little things that aren’t my fault or may be my mistakes, but that true friends won’t view as apology-worthy mistakes. It’s amazing what a little attitude and outlook tweak can do for us (i.e. wonders!). Thank you so much for sharing a little ray of yourself here–I cannot WAIT to keep updated and see where we’re both at in the weeks and months to come! Sending you lots of love and rays of sunshine, Andrea!

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 23 Sep 2015 13:10:50 +0000

I’m sorry it took me so long to get to this post. I loved your comment on my blog entry “Weight Loss & Compliments” so I knew I needed to get over here! As a person who has struggled with abandonment issues (I’m adopted and my adoptive mother also abandoned me when I was 10), I know how hard it can be to let people get close to you, to trust people. It’s a process. A struggle. Something we can never truly overcome but have to work at and manage. I’ve lost 115 lbs in the last 5 years, and have kept off 100 of it for more than a year. When I hit my goal weight, I was smacked in the face with all of the issues that I’d been smothering with my weight. This past year has been crazy dark for me, but I’m coming out of it now. I’ve formed new close relationships, severed others, but most importantly, realized that, ultimately, I am completely worthy of being loved. I’m not perfect, not by a long shot, but not being perfect doesn’t mean you’re bad. Our flaws are what make us beautiful. They make us human. When you think you are unworthy of someone’s love or caring because of your flaws, realize that they, too have flaws, and you love them anyway.

I have a close friend who has Borderline Personality Disorder and always feels like he’s a terrible person. He works his butt off for his family, goes out of his way to make others feel better about themselves, does charity work, is never mean to anyone, even behind their back, and, as far as I’m concerned, is a wonderful human being. He gives an amazing amount of love to others, but can’t see how amazing he is. For him, it’s a part of his condition. His brain screws with him. But unless you’re Charles Manson or the equivalent, you are worthy of love. We’re all worthy of love. 🙂

For me, I don’t have a lot of money. I realize though, that more money, a better job, a house, those are just things. It’s up to me to make happiness out of what I have. Right now I have beautiful weather, sunshine, songbirds, people who love me, a job where I’m needed and a roof over my head. I’m happy. 🙂

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Mon, 21 Sep 2015 06:56:25 +0000

In reply to Maureen | Orgasmic Chef. Maureen, you are an incredible woman and it's truly an inspiration to hear your stories--of hardship, of struggle, but also of being able to let go and shed some of that burden that we all feel responsible for bearing, somehow. I'll keep working to do the same: a million and one hugs to you, Maureen, you amazing woman!

By: Maureen | Orgasmic Chef

Maureen | Orgasmic Chef — Mon, 21 Sep 2015 03:32:19 +0000

Come over here and let me give you a big momma hug. I’m old enough. I’ve suffered through all of that at one time or another. I too found that writing about it left me feeling less isolated and alone. We’ve all got way too much baggage (that we packed ourselves) and I tell myself every day that today I will remove just one piece. My baggage is much, much lighter and I’m a pretty cool person.

Your wedding cookies sound so good and the photos make me want to make some now.

By: Laura Dembowski

Laura Dembowski — Sat, 19 Sep 2015 16:26:22 +0000

First, I looooove Mexican wedding cookies. LOVE! Now, onto the more important stuff. I don’t think any of us have all the answers … or any of them. I’m sorry you’re struggling with your self worth and image. Weight is definitely something I think about too much. I exercise a lot and really like food, but if I don’t like the number on the scale, I say no, and I mean it. It’s not always easy or healthy. I think my bigger problem is finding my place in the world right now. I need a friend (I don’t really have any – not ones I can meet in person anyway), I’d like to fall in love or have my first kiss, and most of all I’d really like to figure out my career. I know I am a good writer, I know it, not that I don’t have doubts, sometimes daily. I just need someone to give me a chance, maybe mentor me, in a world (Hollywood) that doesn’t seem to give a damn about me. But I don’t give up. I don’t give up on finding friends, love, or success because I think I am special. And I think you are too. Sending you lots of love and confidence!

By: Nancy @ gottagetbaked

Nancy @ gottagetbaked — Sat, 19 Sep 2015 14:10:31 +0000

Dearest Ala, you are one of the best people I know. You are ALWAYS putting others before yourself and let me tell you (from someone who constantly says yes when what i really want to do is politely decline and spend my precious time doing things that bring me joy) it will burn you out. I’m a wee bit older than you are and unfortunately, I’m still pondering these same questions. Dealing with the same negative self-talk and self-image. The problems don’t get easier but what DOES get easier is your ability to weed out the important issues and focus on what will make you happy. And if anyone deserves happiness, it’s you, dear friend. I’m still out of town at the moment but when I’m back, let’s schedule a Skype date. It’s been far too long since I’ve seen your gorgeous, smiling face!

By: wallflourgirl

wallflourgirl — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 22:30:30 +0000

In reply to Liz.

I know how you feel, Liz–in everyday life, I’m a huge bottler, and that’s something I still need to continue working on. I always look forward to your comments and insight on these posts–you have so many valuable thoughts to share! I actually thought to myself this morning, gee, I hope I get to hear from Liz on this one 🙂 so thank you, and you’re definitely not alone either.

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 18 Sep 2015 22:17:46 +0000

I’m glad you’ve found your writing as a way to sort through your feelings and struggles. I tend to bottle everything up and I think you’ve found a much more effective way to deal with those issues that so many of us share. Thanks for being so honest and open. You know you’re not alone…. xoxo